Master Key Week 18

Not a huge amount to report this week. I’ve done pretty well with the reads and sits and not tangible requirements. Still missed a couple though.

To be honest this week, I’ve just been trying to take action and get some smart goals done. And I’ve been making progress. I’ve decided Feb is all about creating a new showreel for my acting and so I’ve been putting plans in place to shoot some scenes later this month. The goal is to have it all done by the end of Feb. Actually, I good idea came to me for a comedy scene whilst I was doing a sit. It wasn’t planned, more intuition… and I remember reading in one of the masterkey lessons a couple of weeks back that when intuition comes knocking you should welcome it in… and I’ve always followed my instincts so will continue to do so.

I also planned out my week using OATS again. One thing that I’ve really learned about myself is that I put slightly unrealistic goals on there, I try to do too much in one week and don’t end up doing everything…This is because I lack focus and follow through. But it’s great to know these things about myself and I’m glad I’m using OATS as it still helps me get more done and I’m learning how to be better at using it.

The word for this week was Self-Control, which I’ve had a lot of. I’ve exercised 4 times, I still haven’t smoked (for over a month now) and I managed to complete dry January (no alcohol) so I’m pretty pleased with that.

Still feel that I could step things up a gear in terms of enthusiasm, but I really enjoyed the TED about happiness, goal post moving, gratefulness and I can feel that I’m generally in a better mood and have more time for people, so that’s really good.

If I’m honest, kinda glad we’ve got a week off this week, just gives me a bit more time to digest everything and keep working on those smart goals.

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MasterKey Week 17 HJ

Overall a pretty good week this week. I found the week 17HJ (Hero’s Journey) webinar particularly inspiring and reassuring. It’s interesting how much I fit into the pattern of the HJ. I was feeling a bit like I’m standing over the abyss, like it was make or break (see last week’s blog post). And I’m really glad I’ve decided to let go of the banana, let go of old ideas and continue to rediscover my authentic self.  It’s funny, the webinars always make me feel so pumped up after them, full of belief and optimism. Mark and the team do a great job of generating enthusiasm! The TED talk given by Aimee was fantastic, she’s an amazing example of someone with a DMP, PMA, MM, POA (that won’t make a whole lot of sense to anyone not on this course). And I love the way she changed peoples perspectives. Her greatest ‘perceived’ weakness is actually he greatest strength.

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

She was driven by a purpose greater than herself, to transform the way disability is perceived.

I was left feeling a little bit like my DMP and PPNs are quite selfish after this though. When we were constructing them, our guides said they should be about our dreams and not other peoples (for example our family). And I thought, maybe my PPNS are quite selfish and not really about a cause greater than myself…. plus Aimee, The Strangest Secret in the World, Week 17 Haanel all talk about having ONE GOAL. ONE DESIRE. But I have at least 4 in my DMP…. so now I’m a bit confused to be honest.

So I decided to do a sit and think about this conundrum. I came to the conclusion that everything in my DMP is interlinked…and that when I realise my desires lot’s of people will have been and will continue to be affected in a positive way as a result. I’m still feel a bit split in two about my PPNS though. I’m trying to further my acting career and build a NM business…. should I just pick one and give it 100%…? This question remains unanswered. I shall continue to Ponder.

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Anyway, Some highlights from the week:

  • Reached out and started actually connecting with other people on the MKMMA
  • Had a mastermind with another guy called Gareth, we masterminded about network marketing and have agreed to do some skills training over the phone one evening this week. We’re not even with the same company which is the brilliant thing, but we’re going to help each other practise some of the things we’ve learned on Marks other course Go90Grow.
  • I’ve exercised 4 times
  • This week I’ve been focussing on the virtue ‘Well-Organised’ and I’ve been noticing it more and more. Sometimes I forget to look out for it though, need to remember a bit more and the same with kindness. although I’m definitely more aware than before. So, this week I wrote out a plan using OATS, and have more of less stuck to it. Apart from being incredibly disorganised, I also have a short attention span and tend to drift off some………. oh look a squirrel in the garden….. sorry what was I saying…? Ah, yes…. I struggle to complete things sometimes, so I decided to use this new habit OATS and really plan out my week, with time slots and everything. Whilst, I didn’t complete everything, it did help me make progress towards my SMART goals. So this is a great new habit and one I intend to keep doing every week. I’ll also be putting slightly less things into the diary just to make sure I complete everything.

I’m looking forward to the coming week. I’m going to really put myself out there with my business and step into the unknown. No more refusing the call… it’s time to let the old-self die. In the webinar Mark talked about the 4 stages of grief.

  1. Denial
  2. Anger
  3. Grief
  4. Acceptance

I’ve definitely felt some of these over the last few weeks. And I think I might be in the grief stage with my PPNS and DMP. haha. And sometimes I’m in the denial stage when I don’t flash my cards, miss some sits etc.. But as Mark says”

As long as you move forward, even if it is inch by inch 

Reminds me of certain speech by a certain favourite actor of mine…

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Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.  Joseph Campbell

Masterkey Week 17

YIKES! Where have the last 17 weeks gone?

Feeling a bit weird this week. Been doing the Franklin makeover and trying to focus on Courage (as I could do with a bit more of that). To be honest, I’ve been finding it hard to see examples of it, maybe I’m missing something but there just aren’t that many courageous moments in a day. Managed to find a few, but no way near as many as kindness or discipline. Maybe I should have been more courageous myself……?

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I’ve also been struggling a bit with the Masterkey lesson this week. It’s about the power of concentration…deep thought focussed on a single object. But what object?? I get the theory, focus on causes not effects, focus on desire not the symbol it represents. The problem is, we have two PPN’s in our DMP, so which one do I focus on? One of my goals is to work at the National Theatre (PPN = Creative Expression) and the other is to hit RVP in my home business (PPN = Liberty) but which one should I focus on? I’ve found it hard to focus on one thing this week. On the plus side, I’ve become massively aware of how much I lack focus and my inability to see anything through, and honestly my lack of self confidence sometimes. It’s weird, sometimes I can be extremely confident in myself, I’ve performed on stage to thousands of people and packed out theatres (in one particular show wearing nothing but a towel), and other times I really doubt myself. At least these are useful insights to have as I can start to put better habits in place to remedy these character flaws and to apply the 7 laws of the mind more.

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Also, with lesson 17 – are we supposed to focus just on the object of our desire and let our thoughts drift…? It definitely one I haven’t managed to get hold of this week and to be honest I’m quite looking forward to moving on.

Speaking of moving on, I’m now starting to wonder what happens at the end of the course, I know Mark and the team have an exit strategy, but if I’m being truthful, has this all been a bit of waste of time? because the fact is I haven’t stuck to this course completely 100%. And I’m starting to feel that because I haven’t put the work in everyday as required that I’ve got no results to show for it.

I’m even questioning my DMP now, I mean, I wrote down that I wanted to hit RVP in my networking marketing company, but again, I only ever got involved in Network Marketing as a means to fund my creative passions and help my family, I mean I like my NM company but I don’t live and breathe it. Acting has and always will come first for me, the NM business was supposed to give me the resources (time and money) to focus more on my love.  Now I’m beginning to think it’s a distraction, and I could put my efforts to better use! Argh!!! And the worst thing is that I don’t even really have a mastermind group to share these problems with, I’d love to hear about others experiences and share mine. I’ve made some half hearted attempts to join one but again… didn’t really follow up. And so after 17 weeks, I feel a bit lost and isolated (I don’t have tribe, or even really know what that means! just hear other people talking about it on the webinars) All this has left me feeling a little bit….

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I wrote down on my DMP that I commit to working on my business 10 hours a week… here’s the truth. I haven’t contacted or called a single person about my business since we started the course…. Yes, I’ve been going through a lot of other stuff and have been extremely busy…. but seriously….. why the **** can’t I take action? Instead I bury myself in ‘training videos’ and ‘webinars’ thinking I’m learning more and more but the reality is I’m hiding from the real work, or the MAIN THING as mark says on the Go90Grow course, which by the way is amazing, although I wouldn’t know as I’m yet to actually use any of it. Urgh.

Wow, this post is so negative… A real ‘Pity Party’ hahaha.

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I can only Imagine what Mark J would say to me! Probably something along the lines of…. “Are you done now?….can we get back to work?!”

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Feels good to air some of these thoughts, even though I’m technically going against all the MasterKey teachings by even giving them life and entertaining them, but show me someone who doesn’t feel down sometimes. In scroll 2 OG says “I endure sadness for it opens my soul” and agree with him, if you never feel sad how can you feel the jubilation of happiness. It’s part of being human. And this blog is essentially just a stream of consciousness….. in fact, I’m starting to feel much better already just having got some of these thoughts off my chest, it’s therapeutic to write down ones thoughts. And now it’s time to let it all go… and I’m reminded of this little guy.

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So I’m gonna look through some of my cue cards now and remind myself of everything I’ve learned. I’ve become an observer, I’m grateful for so many things, clean water, my health, my families health, love, food, shelter to name a few. I’ve become more in touch with myself and the power of thought through the sits, I’ve learned amazing things about the human mind, I’ve seen the wonderful effects of giving more, of kindness. I’ve seen this course helping others and many more wonderful examples.

So I’ll keep going, strangely I’ve always had tenaciously dogged persistence, that’s never been my problem, I’m a stubborn bastard and I always keep going. So I will carry on and I will commit myself more to the course with full faith that it will gradually influence my Thoughts and Actions so that I will become a self-reliant and successful person… (see what did there)

We are all natures greatest miracles.

See you next week 😉

x

 

MasterKey Week 16

KINDNESS, KINDNESS AND MORE KINDNESS 

What a week to focus on Kindness, this is such a great virtue to become more aware of, it’s everywhere, and once you start noticing it not only does it become more fun but you start to really appreciate things you normally wouldn’t notice. It’s puts a smile on your face and definitely makes me more grateful.

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Some of the best acts of kindness I’ve witnessed this week happened just opposite where I work. You see, there’s a set of about 15 steps opposite the school which I teach at which lead to the underground station. I must’ve walked up and down these steps thousands of times, on the odd occasion I’ve helped people with their bags up and down the stairs when needed. But this week I noticed kindness on a huge scale at these steps, every single day at these steps, I saw random people helping tourists with their bags, mum’s with pushchairs, people giving other people directions and even a homeless man helping a family with their bags and not asking for anything in return. These kindness steps also helped to make me more aware of it all week and I even really enjoyed being kind to others and doing nice little things whenever I can. This really feeds into the whole ‘give more get more’ ethos of the course, I give with every encounter without expectation of reciprocity.

I also found that this week focussing on harmony and happiness as instructed in the masterkey week 16 was great and kept me in a good mood. Thought plus feeling is the irresistible combination.   An example of this, was that my acting agent got me a reallt great audition this week, it’s for a new musical show called ‘This is Elvis’ touring the UK. As a huge Elvis fan I was pretty excited and would love to have been a part of this show. The only problem was that they were looking for someone who could play the guitar very competently and sing at the same time, and to be honest I’m more of a actor who can sing rather than a trained singer if you know what I mean. I found out about the audition less than 24 hours before and had to prepare to sing an Elvis song on the guitar and perform it in front a very well-know UK theatre producer. Well, I did my best and got some great feedback, it was all really positive and honest, they didn’t feel my guitar was quite good enough. Instead of taking the rejection and feeling sad about it after, I chose to use the law of dual thought and just really the positives from the whole experience and I honestly felt pretty good about the whole thing, Sure I wanted to get the part but the experience gave me some ideas of what to work on more and they were really complimentary about my acting.

All in all a good week, there were a couple of missed sits and occasionally I start to revert to the old blueprint. I’m still procrastinating too much, and I’ve become much more aware of my scattered focus, I can never finish anything. And I know I still need to develop more self-confidence. But I’ve become more aware of all of these things which is very much a step in the right direction. On the plus side, I did do something that I’ve been meaning to do for a long time which involved meeting with my Ex. it was very personal and needed doing and involved a kindness of sorts, it was definitely a weight lifted off my shoulders, as well a being a bittersweet.

Finally, I have to mention the members area this week, which has been a hive of positive and funny activity! Lot’s of members supporting, engaging and chatting with each other and so many kindnesses being shared. It’s been brilliant, and amazing to think that we hit the 8000 kindnesses target! That’s the power of belief.

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Starting to get back on track…finally.

I managed to do a lot more of the sits and reads this week (I’m still slightly behind though lol!) but I’m definitely feeling the flow a bit more.

Really enjoyed doing the Franklin exercise.. I chose to focus on Discipline this week because I feel that’s one of my greatest weaknesses. I get to distracted and if they gave out medals for procrastination I’d have a cabinet full of them 🙂

So I focussed on seeing discipline in people around me and in myself and I have to say it really helps. I chose to give up alcohol and smoking on the 1st of January (not a resolution mind you… we know they don’t work 😉 and I’m proud to say that I’ve stuck to it all week. I’ve been disciplined and seeing discipline in others has helped me during the pangs. I’m also reminded of Scroll 2…

“And most of all I love myself. For when I do I zealously inspect all things which enter my body, my mind, my soul, and my heart. Never I overindulge the requests of my flesh, rather I cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation.” 

This has helped hugely! And all the teachings have. There was a great webby a few weeks ago (I can’t remember which week) but it taught us about how people focus on effects instead of causes when they want change. There was an example about two people Al and Nancy who both wanted to be more generous in life and not be stingy.

So Al focusses his thoughts on not be being stingy, on not wanting to come across as tight-fisted, so that’s all he thinks about…how much he doesn’t want to be stingy and how he usually is stingy.

Whereas, Nancy focusses her thoughts on generosity, on giving to other people as much as possible, on recognising generosity in others and in herself.

Guess who became more generous over the course of a few weeks….. Nancy of course.

This is great exercise in ‘right thinking’, on focussing on the positive causes rather than the negatives. And so I’ve adopted this way of thinking when it comes to not smoking and drinking…. instead of thinking ‘I mustn’t smoke, I can’t, it’s bad for me, I’ve given up this thing I love because I have to… blah blah blah…” I’ve been focussed on loving my body and appreciating how good I feel and how thankful I am to be healthy and that I don’t want to choose to poison it.  “I cherish my body with cleanliness and moderation” And I have to say… so far so good. It seems now to me that this approach is so much more logical and productive.

I’m also trying to use the law of substitution when the pangs happen which also helps.

Other things this week… Scroll 4 is good… I’m not quite totally into it yet like some of the other scrolls but I intend to keep reading and exploring.

I’m still being slightly held back by a 2017 to do list which seems to have slipped into 2018 and a few times this week the TV has gone on when really I could’ve done something a bit more productive… but then again a lifetime of procrastination takes a long time to break! Objectives for this week and not only to complete all the Masterkey work and really feel it!!!! but also to start taking more action towards my smart goals..as a couple of these have actually slipped and as Hannel says.. if you say you’re going to do something then you better do it! or you’re setting up the habit of failure and that is not an option for me anymore!!! HELL NO! We’ve all come to far, there’s no turning back now. I want to be in front of this course not behind it anymore. That’s where the good stuff happens…:)

x

 

 

 

Rudy!

Never seen this film before but heard loads about it and always wanted to watch it. So when it was one of the recommended films to watch during Week 14 it was really a no-brainer as to which one to choose. Although cool runnings was also tempting (but I’ve seen it like a million times!)

Rudy was a great watch, I saw it with my brother and we both throughly enjoyed it. I love that it was based on a true story. The guts and determination that Rudy shows is almost unbelievable. He overcame so many adversities, from his unsupportive family, his bad grades and learning difficulties, lack of money, his physical inadequacies…. the list goes on! I mean this guy had everything stacked against him BUT…. HE DID IT.

It was really interesting to spot the 4 principals of success throughout the movie. I’d been told to look out for:

  1. A DMP
  2. A Burning desire + Positive mental attitude
  3. Plan of Action
  4. Mastermind Alliance

Well, this movie was full of examples of these principals… since he was a child Rudy knew he wanted to play football for Notre Dame University, his DMP never changed, not once, he had laser sharp focus. So much of this is taught by Hannel! One thing I love so much is that Rudy even goes into the Coach’s office just to introduce himself and state his purpose “I’m gonna play for you”. Brilliant!

As for a burning desire…. Rudy’s passion and attitude is so positive and inspiring. Even when he gets knock back after knock back.

Rudy has a plan of action, he knows he needs the grades and to do that he needs to study and he needs help. Rudy also knows he needs the money to be able to afford the university, so he gets the grades his needs, he studies very very hard and he gets a job (working for the groundsman at the stadium) so he has enough money coming in.

Mastermind alliance! As Rudy goes on his hero’s journey he has various mastermind partners along the way who are there to lend a helping hand, advice, or words of encouragement. One of the nicest moments in the film is when the groundsman gives him a key to the office so Rudy can sleep there.

All in all a great film and a truly incredible example of PERSISTENCE! I love that the real Rudy went on to become a successful motivational speaker. Truly amazing.

 

 

 

Master Key Week 12, 13 & 14 !!!!

What the hell happened!!

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Well, Mark and Davene said the holiday period was going to be tough and boy were they right!! I can see why so many people quit around this time of year. The last few weeks have been so busy, but I think I have some legitimate excuses…. I mean I’ve just come out of a looooooong relationship, after moving around from different friends houses I then moved in with my brother and have been helping him renovate his flat with every possible spare bit of time I had, painting, building, sanding (oh the sanding) sawing, cutting, and pretty much everything else that goes with a flat renovation…..photo evidence below! On top of that I’ve been selling my flat which I shared with my EX. You see, it’s been pretty chaotic, I’ve been living out of a dusty bag, sleeping on a camp bed in the lounge and we’ve been trying to get the place ready for Christmas because our mum was coming to stay with us and for the last few weeks it’s been a building site.

We managed to just about get it looking good when my mum arrived to stay for 12 days… then came the Christmas work/friends/social events, plus birthdays etc….We had a great time and a great Christmas. But to be honest my work on the MasterKey kind of ground to a halt. We’re talking one or two sits a week, a few reads of OG a week! I really considered just giving up…I mean… I got some good excuses right 😉 NO! and then I remember…

I will persist until I succeed. One step at a time is not too difficult. I will persist. I will win!

I’ve had this horrible nagging feeling for the past 3 weeks hanging over me, like a little voice saying…”keep going, you’ve come this far, don’t you dare quit, do it now” and the old blueprint has been making all sorts of excuses: “You’re too far behind, this is not a good time for you, you don’t need this course.”

The things that kept me going were the webinars, and reading but mainly listening to my DMP. Hearing and visualising it on my way to work, last thing at night….I can’t imagine not fulfilling it now. I know I’m not the best MK student, to be honest I’ve never been a good student and I know there’s people on this course who are probably much much more dedicated but I’m not giving up. I need to finish this course and I need to finish strong. I’ve run out of excuses now… Christmas is over, the flat is finished, I finally have a bedroom, I’ve sold my old flat which I owned with my EX and all that is left is to dig deep and DO IT NOW!! 100%!

I love this line from week 12 Hannel:

The only way to keep from going backward is to keep going forward. Eternal vigilance is the price of success. There are three steps, and each one is absolutely essential. You must first have the knowledge of your power; second, the courage to dare; third, the faith to do.

And this one too…. It helps emphasise the importance of the sits, of being alone with your thoughts… and I couldn’t agree more.

The intention governs the attention. Power comes through repose. It is by concentration that deep thoughts, wise speech, and all forces of high potentiality are accomplished.

I also found the week 13 webby really useful. The testimonials at the beginning were great especially the story by Luc. It’s really inspirational to hear the stories of others who have been through the course. Week 13 is all about persistence!

Another thing that struck me is that I’ve been sharing my eperience with people, telling them bits and pieces about the master key (it’s hard not to when they ask why there’s strange colours and shapes all over the flat… lol) and it’s amazing to hear people’s responses…Initially I thought they’d be sceptical and judgemental.. but honestly the very opposite is true.  People are really interested in what I’m doing and you can see them lighting up, not that I’m trying to teach it or anything, I’m just explaining some of the concepts and ideas behind it and telling them about some of the exercises I’m doing and people respond really positively. After all you can’t argue with “I greet this day with love in my heart”. It’s infectious! 😉

Onwards and upwards…. here’s to 2018! The best year of my life.

Master Key Week 11

FITS AND STARTS

This week has been about Fits and Starts. After completing the 7 day mental diet I was feeling pretty pumped…. but then out of nowhere…. the old negative thoughts starting creeping back in and I didn’t work hard enough to repel them using the 7 laws of the mind. It was kind of annoying! I thought I’d got control over my brain!! turns out… I don’t, but I’m much better than and I’m a much better observer which is KEY.

So all in all, some good days, productive, creative…..but also some bad days, procrastination, negative self talk, missing reads and sits! I just have to laugh at the way they crept up on me. That old bloody blueprint!

I’m not angry with myself, I’m not gonna beat myself up…because I don’t do that anymore, which I’m proud of.  I need to work harder, commit more, be the best student possible and most importantly be enthusiastic!! So that’s what a plan to do. I’ll put this week behind me and do better tomorrow.

 

 

 

 

Master Key Week 10

What a week! I finally caught up with all my MK work. Some really good habits formed this week.

  • I hardly watched any TV, instead I chose to invest my time in the MK course and my NM business
  • I finally managed to complete the 7 day mental diet!!!!! this was huge.
  • I really enjoyed the sits… although I still struggle to do them at night, most of the time I prefer to do them in the afternoon, my imagination and visualisation is getting stronger every day. This is also incredibly helpful for my acting skills.
  • I formed an MKMMA alliance with Kami (one of the other students on the course)

Last week, I was definitely feeling overwhelmed… just read the blog post. But this week was great, things in my personal life have calmed down a bit and I was able to dedicate a week to this course. I feel really on top of it again.

But perhaps the best thing was managing to complete the 7 day mental diet and boy was that hard!!

It’s almost impossible to not have negative thoughts, as Emmet Fox says they will from time to time just drift into your mind. They key though is not to dwell on them or entertain those thoughts. Now, the law of dual thought and substitution really came to my rescue here. And I’ll explain how…

I re-started the 7 day mental diet on Friday 24th December (I’d already tried it quite a few times and only managed 2 days in a row). On Saturday and Sunday I had to move house…. now I knew this was going to be stressful (isn’t moving house supposed to be one of the most stressful things you can do) but I just made a conscious decision not to let it affect me in a negative way… when I couldn’t fit everything into the boot of my car and then had to make two trips, I just laughed about it. Instead of getting annoyed with the amount of packing… I just smiled and said to myself “Oh well, it’s gotta get done” or “worse things have happened” or “It’s just packing a box”. So by using the law of dual thought, I chose and this is the key, I chose to attach different, positive emotions and feelings to thoughts which would normally make me angry. And it was great!! It was such a refreshing and empowering feeling to know that you CAN control how you think and how your thoughts affect you.

I was feeling so good about how the weekend went that as I started the week on Monday I could feel things getting easier. I was really proactive and caught up on a load of MK work, didn’t turn the TV on when I normally would and started working on my NM business again! whohoo. I’m also doing the Go90 grow course and so I finished two complete modules in a couple of days, this had previously taken weeks to even finish one. When I did want to slip back into the old habit or negative bias, I also used the law of substitution to help. I would think of the opening night of the last play I did, or the time my ex and I climbed the highest mountain in England, the views of the beautiful lake district, or I would take out an index card and read it, or simply remember one of the many affirmations we say. It was great. The only time I felt truly susceptible to my mind, was first thing in the morning. Just after you’ve woken up and your mind is vulnerable to pretty much any thoughts, sometimes negatives ones would attach themselves…I observed this was happening a lot of mornings and so made a concisous effort to be vigilant…. like a cat watches a mouse (as Fox says)

As the week went on, I really began thinking that ‘I’ve got this in the bag’ (classic tortoise and hare) and funnily enough the last two days were probably the hardest… mainly because I’d let my my guard down! haha. Anyway, I managed to complete the mental diet on Friday 1st December.

A truly great experiment and one that I think has changed me a bit. I’ve been less negative since doing it, I’m able to laugh at things that would’ve normally made me angry or annoyed. I don’t really participate in negative conversations because… whats the point? You’re only hurting yourself and others around you.

I’d recommend this challenge to anyone who is willing to try it!

 

 

 

Master Key Week 8 & 9

“Focus Daniel Son, Focus” Mr Miyagi’s immortal words from the Karate Kid. I hear them all day long thanks to Mark and Fab Davene. Every time that old blueprint kicks in, this is what I tell myself.

After a great week 7 of the MKMMA (I was in Dubai) I wasn’t able to complete all the tasks, so when I got back to the UK (week 8) I was already slightly behind. Then, week 8 was a really tough one. I had to spend the week packing up my things in preparation to move out of my flat, because my ex and I have decided to go our separate ways. This was a particularly tough and emotional week for both of us and a very busy one at that. So again, things started to slip. I was getting behind on the assignments and really beating myself up about it. Those old habits were telling me, it’s too hard, you’re too far behind, just quit…. do the MKMMA next year…. so I reached out to my guide, Justin Leader. And then a great thing happened in week 9. We talked and he told me to stop being so hard on myself. Stop making perfection the enemy of the good. Have another look at OATS.

Like me, Justin is also predominately a yellow personality, and we tend to get bored, chase the fun times and lack focus!! there’s that word again “focus”. We laughed about how similar we are and how we always think we’re sooooooo busy, but really we’re making excuses and we can always find a little time for ourselves.

It was great talking to Justin, he really helped me take a step back and just breathe. It can seem hard at times, but that’s because we’re trying to chip away at years and years of conditioning… or concrete 😉

I’ve learned that one of my worst habits which I am currently re-programming, is that I tend to put stuff off until it feels overwhelming and then just do a marathon catch up session… So I’ll skip a couple of days and then suddenly do all my MKMMA work in one 8 hour sitting, but it doesn’t work like that and I’m learning to observe this behaviour and change it. So now things are much better, I’m doing little and often as opposed to cramming and not often and I’ve taken the pressure off myself. No wonder I couldn’t string more than one day of the 7 day mental diet together! haha. The fact is, if you break it down into manageable chunks, there isn’t that much work to do. It’s just been so long since I’ve studied or done a course that it feels alien to me. But now, I’m treating it as if I’m doing a masters…and it’s cost me £10,000, it’s that important. And behind all the excuses is really just one simple truth.

The hardest thing is not the work load, but the hard mental labour, the type so few are willing to give!

So Justin, if you’re reading this, thank you. Thank you for helping me stay the course. Interestingly, he did say that often ‘yellows’ don’t complete the course, because our nature makes us chase the nearest shiny object, we get bored quickly and aren’t good at follow up. But I’ve now decided that this is my main challengeto finish the course.  This is the best thing for me, I’m am and will continue to break those old habits, and I’m actually enjoying the process again.

I thought the week 9 webinar was great! it was so insightful to see all the pieces of the puzzle coming together and realise their significance as a part of the whole. The 7 types of learning, the 7 ways we’re peppering our Subby, coupled with the 7 laws of the mind and the 7 day mental diet…. just brilliant. I’ve now managed to string together 2 days of no negativity…. my best so far 😉

I love Mark and Davene’s passion which is both infectious and uplifting. About 20 mins ago before I started writing this blog entry, I was thinking, it’s the end of the day…. just put the TV on and relax…. and then I thought….NO! focus daniel son! Instead of watching TV (which I’ve hardly watched all week) I actually watched the clip from the Karate Kid as a positive stimulus instead… and here I am… finishing my blog 🙂

I know that through each of us on this course achieving our DMPs and becoming self-directed, the world will be a better place and many many people will benefit as a result due to the law of compensation. Give more… Get more.

Thanks Mark, Davene and Justin. You guys are awesome.